Question from October 16, 2013
Hi, im 16 years old and im a virgin. I have started talking a guy he has convinced me to have sex with him. We are on/off so i dont know when the time will come, but i do want to be ready. We both have condoms but i want to make sure that nothing could happen. My parents would freak! Lol. Im looking into birth control, but i dont know which kind, and im very nervous! If i came to teen matters how would the visit work? Could you help me pick the right kind for me?
Hi! This is a very good question. It sounds like you and him have spent a lot of time talking about this and I think that is great! It shows that you all have good communication which is important in any relationship. But be sure you are making the decision for yourself and not because “he has convinced” you. You also mentioned that you two were “on/off”; if there are other issues in your relationship that cause stress and break-ups, it would be best if you two worked through those issues BEFORE making the decision to have sex.
If you do make the decision to have sex, you are right on track with your thinking…you need to use birth control and condoms each and every time. Being on a reliable method of birth control will give you protection against pregnancy and Teen Matters has many different kinds to choose from. We also have free condoms available and we can even show you how to use them properly so they will have a less chance of breaking. Remember, only abstinence and condoms can provide protection against STD’s. It also helps to reduce the risk of STD’s if both people in the relationship are monogamous. This means that both people have agreed to only have sex with each other.
A first time visit at Teen Matters is usually pretty stress-free. You will spend some time watching a video and talking with a Health Educator about the different methods of birth control, how they should be taken, and which one will work best for you. Afterwards, you will see the nurse. You will give her a urine sample, which will be tested for pregnancy, Gonorrhea, and Chlamydia. Once you and the nurse spend a little more time talking she will give you the birth control you decided on (usually a 3 month supply)…and that’s it! We will allow you to decide for yourself which birth control you would like to try, but we can help you with that decision. And if at any time you would like to change your birth control, you can do that as well.
I am extremely proud of you for really thinking this decision through and making responsible choices to protect yourself from pregnancy and STD’s! And remember…there is no rush to have sex. If you’re not ready, tell him. I hope this answers your questions and we hope to see you soon!